Wednesday 7 September 2016

Is There Such a Thing as "Fuck You!" Lit? Breaking Free: A Way Out for Adult Children of Narcissists is NOW ON SALE!




Is there such a thing as “fuck you!” lit? 

You bet there is!

Breaking Free: A Way Out for Adult Children of Narcissists is now available!

6 x 9 trim, 346 pages, visually interesting, entertaining and informative!

The book is $21.99 and NOW available for International purchase at CreateSpace  HERE


Narcissists beware! We’re mad as hell and we're not going to take it anymore!
In this book, ACONs vent their rage at their “crazy” “abusive” “neglectful” and “self-centered” parents, siblings, relatives, ex-spouses, in-laws, friends, lovers, co-workers, neighbours – you name it!  We’ve had narcissists plague every aspect of our lives.

But in the process we learn how to decode the narcissist's playbook, execute strategies to never let a narcissist in our head, and defend and protect ourselves against abuse and even beat the narc assholes at their own game! 

Breaking Free is an awesome reference tool to learn everything you need to know about narcissism and malignant narcissists (and never let you forget!). It’s a compilation of 40 of the most popular blog articles with a glimpse at the stream of fury generated by each post. The book explores narcissistic abuse and the ways in which ACONs have been universally abandoned in the aftermath of emotional trauma and how embracing our outrage at cruel and unjust treatment can reconnect us with our self and help us break free from an abusive past. 


If you’re looking for a cool book (and an ACON legacy) filled with all the information you will ever need on Narcissists and Malignant Narcissism, Breaking Free: A Way Out for Adult Children of Narcissists will not disappoint!

If you like the book please spread the word! Let’s get the ACON message out there!


Get your rage on and find validation HERE

Monday 29 August 2016

Calling Adult Children of Narcissists to Vent Your Rage!





Calling all ACONs! 
Get your rage on and find validation HERE

The Narcissists have a playbook on how to systematically destroy others, now ACONs have their very own handbook to be liberated from the oppression of narcissistic abuse and receive validation along the path to freedom.

The book is called Breaking Free: A Way Out for Adult Children of Narcissists and it’s OUR book. OUR brick to shatter all of the Narcissist’s dirty little secrets and lies! Our message to the world that we will not stay silent!  

Currently our message is being diluted by those who CHOSE, as full grown adults, to be in relationships with purported Narcissists. ACONs had no choice. We are dealing with a lifetime of narcissistic abuse, not a few months or a few years. The Narcs sunk their evil tentacles into us when we were still plastic. Narcissistic abuse warped our perceptions of our self, other people, the world and our entire lives. Most of us didn’t even plan for the future because we were too busy surviving day-to-day.

Then society piles on and mutes our voice because we were abused by our parents and siblings. Apparently “family” get do whatever the hell they want to the people that share their DNA. If you are Malignant Narcissist granny you will be believed when you file false police reports against your estranged daughter. No questions asked because, after all, mother knows best even though “mother” has not seen her daughter in 25 years. I wonder if 'Betty Loo' who dated a Narcissist for 6 months and whines about it for 6 years has to deal with this kind of shit?!

Let’s break our silence. Let’s shred the universal pattern of adult children of narcissists being overlooked and abandoned. Let’s stop taking a back seat to those crying wolf, seeking attention, or nursing their bruised egos from being “devalued and discarded.” Let’s own what WE lived, continue to live and continue to survive. The asshats crying narc abuse the loudest and playing enlightened guru have made inroads exploiting our very real experiences. These frauds would have jack shit to write about if it weren’t for the adult children of narcissists who carved the way by sharing their hard earned knowledge and insights (there is a limit to what you can learn about narcissistic abuse when your only experience is a couple of alleged narcissists stepping on your toe in College).

Let’s take the megaphone away from those who have jumped on the narcissistic abuse bandwagon as a career choice, a hobby, for a social life and as a way to play victim or expert and receive unwarranted attention and recognition.

Let’s shout louder than the phonies and narcissist sympathizers. In fact, let’s make so much damn noise that we drown out the sniveling masses who believe narcissistic abuse is the best thing that ever happened to them and possessively cling to “their” Narcissist. The red flag of a phony is someone who says, “My Narcissist.”  Good grief! Most ACONs find it difficult to use the word mother or father let alone put the word “my” before it, and I have taken to writing “the” malignant narcissist mother/sister because I cringe at the thought of a connection, even if it is simply by use of a possessive pronoun.

I truly am sick and tired of all the charlatans getting air time.

It OUR time to be heard!  

So here’s what I am proposing….

Book Sample Page of a MN reading the "Playbook"


A proof of Breaking Free (an actual book) has been shipped to my home and will arrive this week. I am really excited about holding the book in my hand and also a little scared. The book has been through quite a metamorphosis. It began as a color book (because I’m a sucker for color), but the cost to print was obscenely expensive so that idea was scrapped. But all the hiccups throughout the process including the death of one computer, the near death of another (it’s currently being kept alive with a metal clamp – no joke!) have turned-out to be a blessing in disguise because they brought me full circle to my original idea and what I believe the book is truly meant to be:

A cool book for ACONs that has a graphic novel feel and look to it. The book is 6 x 9 trim and is currently 350 pages. It’s in black and white and has interesting illustrations throughout that suit the dark subject matter. I also hand-picked different fonts to go with each article. For example: The Brady Bunch font, The God Father font, Blood Gutter font (you get the idea). With the new interior came a new cover which better represents “Fuck You!” lit and the ACON message.

Breaking Free is a merging of the two eBooks with a few additional articles, a summary and lots more validating sound bites from readers. It’s going to sell for $21.99 across all channels and I want to give you the opportunity to personalize your book.

So here’s what I’m thinking: the book still needs to go through one final proof/edit and that means I can add pages. So I came up with the idea of a “Rage Page” or “Rage Pages” or an “ACON Blast!” These will be pages in the book where you can make your mark in print… forever!  Unless of course the book causes such uproar that it is burned and banned – wouldn’t that be awesome?! It would mean they are listening and running scared!

I have enabled “Anonymous” commenting on this blog post so you can shout from the rooftops whatever the hell you want to those who have wronged you. Vent your rage, send a covert message to your evil sibling, express your relief at breaking free from narcissistic abuse, share your wisdom, revel in your triumph over your abusers – make it your own! See it in print! 

Book Sample Pages


If the whole world was listening to you what would you want to say about being an ACON and narcissistic abuse? Now is your chance to send a message! It’s time to stop peekin’ and start speakin’!

Remember, it’s totally Anonymous. I won’t even know who you are.

But don’t waste your time being nasty to this blogger or any ACON. My give a damn is busted and we don’t give a shit about you!


The Proof Book Arrived Today!
 


Spread the word to other ACONs!

Here’s hoping you guys will let it rip!  

Thanks to Gladifoundyou and Ruby for stepping-up to vent your rage. Your comments made it in the book!

The book is now available to purchase HERE.  

Hope you enjoy it!

Saturday 28 May 2016

How To Bring Down A Malignant Narcissist


MN sister's reaction to e-books

You can use the narcissist’s addiction and their grandiose delusions of invincibility (aka STUPIDITY) to control them, manipulate them, and steer them down a path of legal problems, criminal charges, financial troubles, social shunning, paranoia, reclusion, mental illness, or all of the above. You can use the narcissist’s addiction, in all it's various manifestations, to expose them and bring them down. You can turn the tables on the narcissist. Are you game? 

To enjoy articles like this one and many more purchase a copy of eBooks Volume #1 and #2  
         Breaking Through the House of Mirrors
  
Volume 1


                   Available at Amazon for $6.99 
To preview the book and order a copy go HERE
              
 
                               
                           Book #2 Now Available HERE

Volume 2
                            
                          Exiting the House of Mirrors: 
                       Freedom from Narcissistic Abuse

Available at Amazon for $6.99 
To purchase a copy go HERE
 
                                                                               
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Tuesday 10 May 2016

ACON Blogs And The Streisand Effect



Have you heard of the “Streisand Effect”?  Essentially, it’s about a shit ton of attention being drawn to information that’s in the process of being repressed. 

It’s interesting how narcissist “family” members and flying monkeys somehow find anonymous ACON blogs. By identifying with what is written and reacting so strongly to the content, they only admit their guilt. But they don’t see it that way. They don’t think their violent and abusive behavior is disgusting and despicable. They believe writing about it is. That, right there, is brain on narc.

In the Malignant narcissist's warped and twisted mind they feel entitled to abuse the living shit out of us. They see it as their right. We – the victims – have no right to object to the abuse. Being denied a defense is all part and parcel of the narcissistic abuse bundle. Doesn’t that sound like a human rights violation? When you look at it this way, you can see that narcissistic abuse is the most insidious violation of human rights. Everything under the umbrella of narcissistic abuse is virtually allowed under our justice system. I’m referring to such crimes as character assassination, psychological violence, diminishing anothers' self-worth, blaming, shaming, ostracizing, shunning, mobbing, scapegoating and worst of all, the malignant narcissist’s ability to usurp the will of another and replace it with their own. Vandalizing a person’s car is a serious crime, but vandalizing a person's mind is nothing? A human being’s most precious possession – their mind – is considered by our society to hold less value than an inanimate object. Trashing property is something, but trashing a person's reputation is nothing? A damaged life is irrelevant, but a dented vehicle is important?!

A human being's most scared personal qualities, the very assets that make-up our nature and that no one but ourselves has a right to stake a claim to - OUR MINDS, OUR CHARACTER, OUR HUMANITY - are precisely what the malignant narcissist feels entitled to get their grubby paws on and destroy. Why? Because they see human beings as nothing but objects. These freak truly believe they own us. That means they believe they own our indentity. The malignant narcissist feels entitled to steal, trash, vandalize, destroy, neutralize, and if all else fails, erase the very qualities that make us who we are as an individual, and replace them with a piece of fiction created to support their own self-serving narrative. By dirtying you up by fraud, the seedy narcissist gets to look clean by comparison - which is also fraud. And, in extreme case, the malignant narcissist doesn't just replace a person's true identity with a fake one, they actually replace a person with themselves. It's no exagerration that the malignant narcissist wants to control and dominate others - her ultimate goal is to literally possess them. Malignant narcissists deliberately set-out to usurp a person's free-will and replace it with their own will.  That, is the biggest power rush a malignant narcissist will ever receive: to drain you hollow and fill you with themselves. That, is the very definition of evil.

Malignant narcissists have zero respect for human life.  

Things need to change!

Everything that falls under the umbrella of narcissistic abuse needs to fall under the jurisdiction of crimes against humanity and these crimes need to be punishable by law. We all know that the worst offenders of these crimes – malignant narcissists – have established a “pattern” of destroying people. Patterns don’t lie. Patterns prove malice of intent. Patterns permit legal action. Patterns are quite prosecutable if you write sensible laws and enforce them.

Speaking of patterns, every malignant narcissist I’ve had the misfortune of knowing has demonstrated a pattern of obsessive stalking behavior. Stalking is currently a punishable offense. Perhaps these narcissists should consider that when they are hurling threats and accusations about what they find while they stalk, spy and monitor us on the internet.

I’m sure I speak for most ACONs when I say I wish I had nothing to write about. I truly wish the narcissists would magically transform into loving, caring human beings that genuinely regret what they have done and are willing to pay-off the debt they owe me with good deeds. Unfortunately, I know that will never happen. Not only will the narcissists never admit their wrong doing, there simply isn’t enough time left for them to right their wrongs.  I used to read comments on my blog and think to myself; thank god my family isn’t THAT crazy. Little did I know THAT crazy was coming down the pike. The narcissists continue to ramp-up their abuse of me and continue to give me tons of material to write about. I have volumes of content stored in my mental hard drive. If the narcissists want me to stop writing about their crimes, they should stop committing them.

Narcissistic abuse is a crime in progress. For adult children of narcissists the abuse occurs every day in real-time. It lives in our bodies, it lives in our minds, and it lives in our souls. The narcissists don’t need to launch an attack to hurt us. Don’t they know they have already done permanent damage? They should see that as winning. But don’t mistake this declaration as defeat on my part. I’m simply stating facts.

You narcissists should think about that while you’re strutting around on stage putting on a melodramatic performance of suffering victim.

You narcissists should also consider the Streisand Effect when you are trying to silence the true victim. It’s likely to produce the opposite result and draw attention to the thing you hate more than your target – Exposure. 

According to Wikipedia: The Streisand effect is the phenomenon whereby an attempt to hide, remove, or censor a piece of information has the unintended consequence of publicizing the information more widely, usually facilitated by the Internet. It is an example of psychological reactance, wherein once people are aware something is being kept from them, their motivation to access the information is increased.

It is named after American entertainer Barbra Streisand, whose 2003 attempt to suppress photographs of her residence in Malibu, California, inadvertently drew further public attention to it. Similar attempts have been made, for example, in cease-and-desist letters to suppress numbers, files, and websites. Instead of being suppressed, the information receives extensive publicity and media extensions such as videos and spoof songs, often being widely mirrored across the Internet or distributed on file-sharing networks.

Mike Masnick of techdirt coined the term in 2005 in relation to a holiday resort issuing a takedown notice to urinal.net (a site dedicated to photographs of urinals) over use of the resort's name.

How long is it going to take before lawyers realize that the simple act of trying to repress something they don't like online is likely to make it so that something that most people would never, ever see (like a photo of a urinal in some random beach resort) is now seen by many more people? Let's call it the Streisand Effect.   — Mike Masnick,

The term invoked Barbra Streisand who had unsuccessfully sued photographer Kenneth Adelman and Pictopia.com for violation of privacy. The US $50 million lawsuit endeavored to remove an aerial photograph of Streisand's mansion from the publicly available collection of 12,000 California coastline photographs. Adelman photographed the beachfront property to document coastal erosion as part of the California Coastal Records Project, which was intended to influence government policymakers. Before Streisand filed her lawsuit, "Image 3850" had been downloaded from Adelman's website only six times; two of those downloads were by Streisand's attorneys. As a result of the case, public knowledge of the picture increased substantially; more than 420,000 people visited the site over the following month.