Showing posts with label Forgiving Yourself. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Forgiving Yourself. Show all posts

Thursday, 15 June 2017

Adult Children of Narcissists: Survivors or Transcenders?



Survivors and Transcenders


I believe that many people who were abused as children do themselves—and the entire struggle—a disservice when they refer to themselves as "survivors." A long time ago, I found myself in the middle of a war zone. I was not killed. Hence, I "survived." That was happenstance ... just plain luck, not due to any greatness of character or heroism on my part. But what about those raised in a POW camp called "childhood?" Some of those children not only lived through it, not only refused to imitate the oppressor (evil is a decision, not a destiny), but actually maintained sufficient empathy to care about the protection of other children once they themselves became adults and were "out of danger."

To me, such people are our greatest heroes. They represent the hope of our species, living proof that there is nothing bio–genetic about child abuse. I call them transcenders, because "surviving" (i.e., not dying from) child abuse is not the significant thing. It is when chance becomes choice that people distinguish themselves. Two little children are abused. Neither dies. One grows up and becomes a child abuser. The other becomes a child protector. One "passes it on." One "breaks the cycle." Should we call them both by the same name? Not in my book. (And not in my books, either.)


Wednesday, 7 September 2016

Is There Such a Thing as "Fuck You!" Lit? Breaking Free: A Way Out for Adult Children of Narcissists is NOW ON SALE!




Is there such a thing as “fuck you!” lit? 

You bet there is!

Breaking Free: A Way Out for Adult Children of Narcissists is now available!

6 x 9 trim, 346 pages, visually interesting, entertaining and informative!

The book is $21.99 and NOW available for International purchase at CreateSpace  HERE


Narcissists beware! We’re mad as hell and we're not going to take it anymore!
In this book, ACONs vent their rage at their “crazy” “abusive” “neglectful” and “self-centered” parents, siblings, relatives, ex-spouses, in-laws, friends, lovers, co-workers, neighbours – you name it!  We’ve had narcissists plague every aspect of our lives.

But in the process we learn how to decode the narcissist's playbook, execute strategies to never let a narcissist in our head, and defend and protect ourselves against abuse and even beat the narc assholes at their own game! 

Breaking Free is an awesome reference tool to learn everything you need to know about narcissism and malignant narcissists (and never let you forget!). It’s a compilation of 40 of the most popular blog articles with a glimpse at the stream of fury generated by each post. The book explores narcissistic abuse and the ways in which ACONs have been universally abandoned in the aftermath of emotional trauma and how embracing our outrage at cruel and unjust treatment can reconnect us with our self and help us break free from an abusive past. 


If you’re looking for a cool book (and an ACON legacy) filled with all the information you will ever need on Narcissists and Malignant Narcissism, Breaking Free: A Way Out for Adult Children of Narcissists will not disappoint!

If you like the book please spread the word! Let’s get the ACON message out there!


Get your rage on and find validation HERE

Monday, 29 August 2016

Calling Adult Children of Narcissists to Vent Your Rage!





Calling all ACONs! 
Get your rage on and find validation HERE

The Narcissists have a playbook on how to systematically destroy others, now ACONs have their very own handbook to be liberated from the oppression of narcissistic abuse and receive validation along the path to freedom.

The book is called Breaking Free: A Way Out for Adult Children of Narcissists and it’s OUR book. OUR brick to shatter all of the Narcissist’s dirty little secrets and lies! Our message to the world that we will not stay silent!  

Currently our message is being diluted by those who CHOSE, as full grown adults, to be in relationships with purported Narcissists. ACONs had no choice. We are dealing with a lifetime of narcissistic abuse, not a few months or a few years. The Narcs sunk their evil tentacles into us when we were still plastic. Narcissistic abuse warped our perceptions of our self, other people, the world and our entire lives. Most of us didn’t even plan for the future because we were too busy surviving day-to-day.

Then society piles on and mutes our voice because we were abused by our parents and siblings. Apparently “family” get do whatever the hell they want to the people that share their DNA. If you are Malignant Narcissist granny you will be believed when you file false police reports against your estranged daughter. No questions asked because, after all, mother knows best even though “mother” has not seen her daughter in 25 years. I wonder if 'Betty Loo' who dated a Narcissist for 6 months and whines about it for 6 years has to deal with this kind of shit?!

Let’s break our silence. Let’s shred the universal pattern of adult children of narcissists being overlooked and abandoned. Let’s stop taking a back seat to those crying wolf, seeking attention, or nursing their bruised egos from being “devalued and discarded.” Let’s own what WE lived, continue to live and continue to survive. The asshats crying narc abuse the loudest and playing enlightened guru have made inroads exploiting our very real experiences. These frauds would have jack shit to write about if it weren’t for the adult children of narcissists who carved the way by sharing their hard earned knowledge and insights (there is a limit to what you can learn about narcissistic abuse when your only experience is a couple of alleged narcissists stepping on your toe in College).

Let’s take the megaphone away from those who have jumped on the narcissistic abuse bandwagon as a career choice, a hobby, for a social life and as a way to play victim or expert and receive unwarranted attention and recognition.

Let’s shout louder than the phonies and narcissist sympathizers. In fact, let’s make so much damn noise that we drown out the sniveling masses who believe narcissistic abuse is the best thing that ever happened to them and possessively cling to “their” Narcissist. The red flag of a phony is someone who says, “My Narcissist.”  Good grief! Most ACONs find it difficult to use the word mother or father let alone put the word “my” before it, and I have taken to writing “the” malignant narcissist mother/sister because I cringe at the thought of a connection, even if it is simply by use of a possessive pronoun.

I truly am sick and tired of all the charlatans getting air time.

It OUR time to be heard!  

So here’s what I am proposing….

Book Sample Page of a MN reading the "Playbook"


A proof of Breaking Free (an actual book) has been shipped to my home and will arrive this week. I am really excited about holding the book in my hand and also a little scared. The book has been through quite a metamorphosis. It began as a color book (because I’m a sucker for color), but the cost to print was obscenely expensive so that idea was scrapped. But all the hiccups throughout the process including the death of one computer, the near death of another (it’s currently being kept alive with a metal clamp – no joke!) have turned-out to be a blessing in disguise because they brought me full circle to my original idea and what I believe the book is truly meant to be:

A cool book for ACONs that has a graphic novel feel and look to it. The book is 6 x 9 trim and is currently 350 pages. It’s in black and white and has interesting illustrations throughout that suit the dark subject matter. I also hand-picked different fonts to go with each article. For example: The Brady Bunch font, The God Father font, Blood Gutter font (you get the idea). With the new interior came a new cover which better represents “Fuck You!” lit and the ACON message.

Breaking Free is a merging of the two eBooks with a few additional articles, a summary and lots more validating sound bites from readers. It’s going to sell for $21.99 across all channels and I want to give you the opportunity to personalize your book.

So here’s what I’m thinking: the book still needs to go through one final proof/edit and that means I can add pages. So I came up with the idea of a “Rage Page” or “Rage Pages” or an “ACON Blast!” These will be pages in the book where you can make your mark in print… forever!  Unless of course the book causes such uproar that it is burned and banned – wouldn’t that be awesome?! It would mean they are listening and running scared!

I have enabled “Anonymous” commenting on this blog post so you can shout from the rooftops whatever the hell you want to those who have wronged you. Vent your rage, send a covert message to your evil sibling, express your relief at breaking free from narcissistic abuse, share your wisdom, revel in your triumph over your abusers – make it your own! See it in print! 

Book Sample Pages


If the whole world was listening to you what would you want to say about being an ACON and narcissistic abuse? Now is your chance to send a message! It’s time to stop peekin’ and start speakin’!

Remember, it’s totally Anonymous. I won’t even know who you are.

But don’t waste your time being nasty to this blogger or any ACON. My give a damn is busted and we don’t give a shit about you!


The Proof Book Arrived Today!
 


Spread the word to other ACONs!

Here’s hoping you guys will let it rip!  

Thanks to Gladifoundyou and Ruby for stepping-up to vent your rage. Your comments made it in the book!

The book is now available to purchase HERE.  

Hope you enjoy it!